Your family starts a fight for no plain reason. Or at least nothing important. But, between us you know the problem is not anything they may be fighting about right?
But you know all this have a deeper meaning. And now, what do you do? Try to talk it through with everyone at the moment? Try to correct and listen to everyone now, after years of nobody really talking with each other? You learned a lot of conflict management but something is off.
It doesn't seem like a good solution, right? You feel guilty. You have to stop this situation and solve everything. Stop. Let me tell you something you are already beginning to think, besides "this is a disaster".
The issue is bigger but is not an outside entity. At least not completely, yet they look like zombies with a bad temper. But you know yourself, and you know one thing by now, I bet you know. The real problem started inside them. And it may be out of reach right now.
There's no way you can go there and solve the fight, cause there's a cold war happening inside of many parts of them. You can do something. Keep yourself calm and in peace within.
Them be open to listening to the people who need and want to communicate with you, and then you can help. It's communication, and it needs to be a choice for both parties.
Always. Breathe and mediate your own inner conflicts for now. You can get a lot done this way. Not all fights need you to solve. It's ok, it's really ok my dear.
Thank for reading, and have a nice life! Ps.: English is not my native language. I appreciate any feedback about the grammar and the content as well.