"If life's not beautiful without the pain, Well I'd just rather never ever even see beauty again..." --Modest Mouse, "The View"
Love is the greatest way to drop the clouded, false entity that is the ego, in order to evolve your inner being.
It requires you to drop that which you don't have, to make room for its gift of that which you have and have always had.
Love gives you your self back.
While the ego keeps your true self hidden, love reveals the real you to your self.
This doesn't come without fear, though.
The fear is a natural presence that one must embrace.
The true strength of your being is tested only when love arises.
Knowing the mettle of your being cannot be realized before. Going through the motions of ordinary life never really tests the fortitude of your being.
One must experience and know what it is to burn--passing through the fire of love.
Love is pain; a pain that ultimately creates the way for bliss.
It hurts because it's a transformation. Pain comes with a change like this, like that of a snake shedding its old skin--the old must be left for the new.
What makes this difficult is how familiar, secure and safe you feel with the old, while anything new is unknown to anyone.
You cannot use your mind with the new; while your mind has become an expert with the old.
Fear makes its inconvenient entrance here, which enables pain.
The same pain a child feels when leaving the mother's womb; the same a bird comes out of the egg, and must experience again when attempting to fly for the first time because mom gave it the boot.
Ecstasy doesn't come without going through agony.
Without darkness, there can be no light.
If gold is to be purified, it has to pass through fire.
It is this pain of love that keeps millions of people living a loveless life. They too suffer, and that suffering is futile.
To suffer in love is not to suffer in vain. It is creative, taking you to higher levels of consciousness.
Suffering without love leads you nowhere, keeping you moving around the same vicious cycle of a closed-off narcissist, who only knows himself.
You will never know yourself without knowing the other.
Relationship should be a mirror; the purer the love, the cleaner the mirror, the higher the love.
Higher love requires vulnerability.
All armor and walls must drop, in order to stop being on guard.
The calculating mind must drop as well, in order to take risks.
Love is painful, but don't avoid it. Avoiding pain is avoiding the greatest opportunity to grow.
Go into it, suffer love; for, through the suffering comes great ecstasy.
Yes, there is agony, but it's out of this that ecstasy and bliss are born.