If a flower was happy in its bed and someone came over and stamped on it, it would be sad...
Would the flower feel guilty?
Would the flower... feel irresponsible?
Would the flower feel stupid that it had let that happen to itself?
No. It wouldn’t.
Was it the flower’s fault, in any way? No. Because it wasn't.
You are the flower.
It wasn’t your fault.
You aren’t to blame.
Don’t beat yourself up.
Don’t feel responsible for being treated badly, when THEY are the ones that treated you that way.
Look towards the sunlight and blossom.