by Tyler Menezes
I’m not very good at most things. Most people aren’t
One thing I'm particularly deficient in is existing
That is, being a person. Many of us are. i have a number of problems, from communication, to over-optimism, to estimation
Admitting you're not perfect
refusing to do so seems justifiable, both from an ego and business perspective. However, improvement is likely to make you dramatically happier than continuing to pretend
You are an engineering problem
I am an engineering problem. Figuring out how to be a better human is one of the most significant and wide reaching investments you can make in your future happiness
Trying to impress is likely the biggest enemy of becoming a better person. The technical and entrepreneurial circles seem to be particularly full of this
It’s imposible to form real connections
when we’re worried about appearances and without real connections it’s impossible to even figure out what your problems are
Hiding the bad?
Trying to build an image for yourself requires hiding the bad. Pretending mistakes weren’t. This is the part I’ve most struggled with
How do we get out of networking mode?
LISTEN. We love it when others listen, but we treat listening as a weakness
How many times have you pretended to know what somebody was talking about so you didn’t seem to be less knowledgable?
Say "Tell me more"
Acknowledging shortcomings does not make you a worse person. People love telling others about things they're passionate about
Genuinely listening actually lets you learn and improve