Without Chess, I'd Still Be Shy And Unconfident
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sydneyverifiedco-creator of Commaful
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Without Chess, I'd Still Be Shy And Unconfident

I was an extremely shy kid growing up....chess changed that

Growing up, I had confidence issues. I was also extremely shy. If I saw an adult I knew, I'd often run the other way. If I didn't know you, I probably wouldn't want to get to know you

I learned how to play chess in middle school on a rainy day

Little did I know the next 5 years of my life would go into chess

Initially, I was scared of losing

You should HATE losing. Not FEAR losing. Fear led me to draw winning positions and make mistakes in winning ones. Two friends changed that.

2 guys named Andrew showed me how to be confident

We would play. They would trash talk. They would make me trash talk back. Yes. CHESS TRASH TALK. Eventually, I started to believe what I was saying.

Over a few months, I learned to play confidently

I'd smash out moves with confidence (I mean who talks trash and plays uncertain and weak moves?)

I soon became part of a community

I went from being shy to being active in the community. I joined an internet chess club (ICC) and made many new friends and learned from many mentors.

I became comfortable talking to anybody who played chess

I also became confident in my chess abilities. It led to a huge improvement in my game. And also a group of friends I'll never forget

That soon translated into other areas of my life

I was no longer scared of people. I no longer feared losing. In chess, nor in life. Without chess I would not be building Comma today.

An Open Challenge: Comment if you want to play me!

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sydneyVerifiedco-creator of Commaful
a year agoReply
@kimberlyburks i had a head start ;)

kimberlyburksBronze CommaI am a writer who loves suspense.
a year agoReply
105 stories. wow

nakuraneBronze CommaStudent. Comma Media Fellow.
a year agoReply
@sydney Appreciate it!

a year agoReply
@sydney lol

sydneyVerifiedco-creator of Commaful
a year agoReply
@chelsey it's a thing ;)

a year agoReply
Chess trash talk? Really?

CubeToobHyper Habitat
a year agoReply
@sydney Very nice. It has been a very long time

sydneyVerifiedco-creator of Commaful
a year agoReply
@nakurane for learning, i would start with basic theory. You can pick them up from most beginner chess books. Controlling the center, learning basic check mating patterns, etc. Once you have that down, practice tactics puzzles using chess.com or chess tempo. For videos, Greg Shahade has some really fun and interesting videos of him playing speed chess and thinking out loud. It lets you get behind the mind of a strong master. Most chess.com videos are good. The St. Louis chess club also publishes live coverage of tournaments and most of those are fantastic. For pure learning and analysis, chess com ones are probably best but they're not free. YouTube has some good ones, ChessNetwork used to be pretty good

sydneyVerifiedco-creator of Commaful
a year agoReply
@cubetoob do you play?

sydneyVerifiedco-creator of Commaful
a year agoReply
@cubetoob I used to play on ICC and FICS. Nowadays, I'll play on chess.com if I have time or lichess