Life's Unfair. But I don't have to get used to it.
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spikes555I just write what I'm thinking & feeling
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Why do we tell other's that life isn't unfair and that they should get used to it? As a joke, or because they were complaining about something stupid? Well, either way, I don't think that's the right thing to say. Here's why.

Life's Unfair. But I don't have to get used to it.

by spikes555

"Life's not fair. Get used to it."

This is something I hear constantly. I've even said it.

But when it comes to certain things,

yes, life is unfair,

but no, I'm not going to sit by and tolerate it.

If someone's getting bullied, are you going to say that?

"Oh, people get bullied, it's life."

No. Or at least, I hope not.

But if someone is complaining...

saying how it's not fair their brother got the last cookie,

or something like that,

then I get why that would be said.

My point is not that.

My point is that life is unfair, but for some things,

We shouldn't get used to it.

We should take action against it.

Are we going to stand by and say that to a victim?

Someone being bullied because of their gender, race, etc?

Not if you're a good person. But if you aren't, you may.

Of course, when people say that...

They don't mean it like what I'm saying.

They say it jokingly.

But that doesn't soften the blow.

People use the "Life isn't fair quote" in the wrong context-

Not just once or twice, but all the time.

And, I'm sorry to rant,

but it annoys me... a lot.

Some people are going through hard times,

and they need to consult in someone they trust.

With that someone, they expect to be comforted.

So how would it make them feel to be told that?

They consult the person they trust most, only to be told,

"Life's not fair. It's not always going to go your way."

"So, just deal with. Life's not fair, get used to it."

It wouldn't make them feal any better.

Maybe what they were complaining about was stupid.

Stupid, as in, to other people.

But not to them.

To them it's real.

And they were hurting,

or at least, feeling some sort of emotion...

I may be getting a little boring here with this rant,

and I know I'm repeating myself a lot.

I guess the real message, what I could say in one slide,

is that even though life's unfair,

and even though I know I should get used to it.

I don't want to. And I don't want to hear that quote.

That's not the right thing to say.

Especially if something unfair could be changed.

Because then I'm definitely not going to get used to it.

I'm going to fight with all my heart to change it.

To make it right.

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2 months agoReply
@michaelschulze Thank you! That is exactly what I mean. Sure, some things you can't change, but why give up? As you said, "life is what you make it", so, yes, make it worthwhile!

2 months agoReply
Very well put change the things you can change love all those you can love and show compassion for those who you can't love and some things in life you just have to accept that is the way it is and there's nothing you can do about it. But no never get used to it because life is what you make it