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Is Commaful a Safe Space?
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Should we fight to keep it
as one?

How to be Competent - LL&T Series Part 6

Is Commaful a "Safe Space"?

Should we strive to keep it a "safe space"?

Is "Safe Space" synonymous with Healthy?

The idea of "safe space" has been taking a lot of my attention lately.

I use quotes because they are not an actual thing that exists. In reality, the phrase "safe space" hides a more sinister meaning than we think

The notion of people having a "right" to not be offended by others is a very new idea which some people take for granted.

You are growing up in an era in which this suddenly became a thing. And when something is called "Safe Space" is does seem pretty harmless

What is an example of a Safe Space?

If I am trying to help you deal with a critical issue, I can "invoke" an artificial space and say:

"Look, I promise that I will not openly judge or criticize you in a negative way, regardless of what you tell me. This is a safe space for you."

But it's not really a "safe space" because I might be judging you in silence. But you can at least pretend that I am not and that might help.

In that moment, I make a promise to do my absolute best to behave and allow you to get certain things out of your system.

But we fail to forget that this space that I created for you is not a "right" but rather something that we negotiate and I agree to do for you.

The problem is that we easily forget how things truly are. We take the present for granted, and become entitled to certain things.

We live in a world in which people are "Demanding" their RIGHT to not be offended.

That means that it is not longer something negotiated between two people, but something being demanded from the bottom to the top.

That is a different thing because that require laws to be passed and those laws need to be enforced which means less freedom.

Maybe the best way to treat this topic is to go to a very different example and move away from the politics of it.

When a mother has an infant between 1 and 9 months, that infant REQUIRES an absolute safe space to be raised around him or her.

No matter what that baby does, you have to give them every thing that they need and you have to do it in the most loving way possible.

Their life depends on it and the mother has no choice but to oblige to every single demand that the baby has.

But eventually, that safe space is removed for two reasons:

But eventually, that safe space is removed for two reasons: 1. It simply is NOT sustainable

But eventually, that safe space is removed for two reasons: 1. It simply is NOT sustainable 2. Protection = Destruction

I will end this piece by leaving you a video on the topic of "Overbearing mothers" which I believe will shine light on the topic of safe spaces.

Thank you for reading!

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