a lovers past is important. man or woman. the more partners you have the more you build up a tolerance against pair bonding , the ability to nuture.
women retain dna from every man they have been with. men take on womens dna and mannerisms. it's so important do a background check on the person you are interested in. looks can decieve.
sometimes you can't help who you are... but sometimes you can. will you change? can you? will you hit rock bottom? or are you not miserable enough yet?