I was just on a flight from SF to New York
moving back to Manhattan and about to start a new chapter of my life. When these transitions come, I try, as I’m sure many others do as well, to consider what changes I should make.
to live a happier, more productive, and fulfilling life.
This is what popped into my head during this introspection
the idea of the month mindset.
I sometimes try to make changes in life that are impossible
they’re too drastic, too time-consuming, too far from my character and who I am at my core to be realized. Somehow, they’re just not the right fit.
This isn’t a bad thing.
I learn from these experiences, as we all do when things don’t work out. The ‘not working out’ is always instructive in a way.
But I’d like to improve the process.
And I want to be easier on myself when I make goals that I don’t reach, or goals end up not helping me achieve greater happiness/productivity/fulfillment.
I’m thinking of trying out the month mindset.
Each month, I’ll jot down a few goals for that month or changes I want to make that month. Maybe something like, I’m going to be vegetarian for this month.
Or, for this month,
each day I’m going to learn one latin word (I love learning latin and greek roots).
Why a month?
First, it’s easy to count. If I set a goal to finish two books this month, I don’t have to think hard to figure out how much time I have left to reach my goal — it’s just the day of the month.
it takes 21 days to break a habit, so it puts me over that mark if I try to make a change like stop biting my nails (a goal I’ve failed to achieve for about a decade - tips welcome).
My mom always reminds me things don't last forever.
During a rough patch while I was living abroad in Shanghai, my mom reminded me, “it’s just a year. You can do anything for a year.”
She’s right. I bet I can do just bout anything for 30 days
The Month Mindset excites me because I feel like I can set goals and decide to make changes with the finish line in sight.
It's a sweet spot.
One month is just enough time that I can’t give it up when Friday rolls around, but I know it won’t be forever if it really does suck.
What do you think?