I remember as a little girl, I used to over water all my plants. Everyone knows that's a sure fire way to kill them, but I didn't.
I didn't understand how you could have too much of a good thing. My mom scolded me, telling me I was drowning them, and I said I just don't want them to die.
She told me I was too worried about them dying, that I was causing them to die. Well Arizona is really dry, and what if I forget to water them?
So I stopped.
And they died anyway.
I think I do the same thing in my relationships. I get overbearing because I think I'm not watering enough.
I'm too afraid to leave it alone, and I overcompensate for the times I do leave it alone. Maybe that's how I push everyone away,
I either give too much or nothing at all.