Have you ever caught your partner cheating? Well, I have! It's exactly how you would imagine it but maybe worst.
I was only (21) years old and believed I was in love, I'm guessing you've probably been here as well. I met a really cute Spanish/ Trini that sold me "solid dreams".
I fell for his cute face, hot body, and a smile with dimples.
The relationship was so amazing for about a month, it felt like it could be true love.
Our energy was in sync and the sex was INCREDIBLE by nature, it felt perfect! He even gave me the keys to his apartment which to me was a declaration that it was a serious relationship.
I was staying about (5) minutes walking distance from him which was really convenient.
On a bright sunny Friday afternoon, I called him to see if he was home but he said "he wasn't". I decided to go get lunch, so I had to pass in front of his home to get to the food place.
I saw his apartment open up with his friends' cars parked outside.
There was music playing as if it had a party going on. So, I walked into the apartment and saw a big "lime" going on but my boyfriend wasn't in the living room area with everyone.
I looked around and saw his cell phone charging by the kitchen so automatically I knew he was home.
I asked his friends, "where is Alejandro?" They said, "he went to get food". I didn't believe them! I proceeded to walk towards his bedroom but his "friend" tried to stop me.
I pushed them away and walked into the bedroom and the door wasn't locked! As I opened the door I saw "my man" had a girl bent over in you know what style.
I closed the door behind me and locked everyone outside.
At this moment I wasn't quite sure how to feel. It's as if my brain had shut down. My boyfriend stood up naked with only his socks and a condom on.
The girl hid her face in the bed and grabbed a sheet to cover herself. While I stood there staring at them thinking about how I should react. I decided to go with "psycho".
I grabbed a beer bottle that was on his dressing table and broke it on the wall. The girl ran towards the bathroom and locked her self in there while he dived to get the bottle out of my hand.
I started cursing and screams and he started apologizing. I started to fight with him, biting, kicking, and scraping him.
His friends then kicked the door open to help because we were making quite a commotion. It was so awkward, to be honest! I felt ashamed because everyone saw that I got cheated on.
I felt like everyone was laughing at me. It was an embarrassing situation.
I was wrong to feel that way because the truth is I did nothing wrong, besides fall for a player. Sometimes people do things that cause us to second guess ourselves.
We wonder what we did wrong, "Is something wrong with us? Am I not good enough? Am I not pretty enough? Etc.... but sometimes it isn't us.
It's the low life men that we fell for who never cared for us the same way".
They manipulated us into falling for them so they could break our self esteems.
Every time I left the house a guy tracked me or made a move at me, so, I realized that I was good enough, but for the right person. I remember this experience and laugh now.
I found an amazing man who made me his wife and treats me like a Queen. He reminds me that I'm amazing and perfect as I am.
I made sure I got to know him as a friend first before I gave my body to him.
I started protecting my body from men who wanted to use me and it made me love myself more and value who I am and what I had to offer besides "sex".
In life, I've realized that most people always have an ulterior motive that's beneficial to them. We as women need to recognize this pattern and know how to avoid men like these.
Some of the signs I've noticed with players I've dealt with :
They avoid your family.
They are in complicated situations when you meet them.
They don't go public with the relationship.
They are sneaky.
They are masters at pretending.
They love to cry.
They always say "I Love You" with ease.
They focus on a physical relationship.
Love yourself. You're worthy of love.
Written By Stephanie Abraham