GENDER IDENTITY stories

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“As a writer, you should not judge, you should understand.” Earnest Hemingway


“As a writer, you should not judge, you should understand.” Earnest Hemingway

I had planned on writing a satirical story based on gender identitification. I intended to compose the story featuring animals instead of humans.

I had hopes of putting my understanding, as limited as it is, into the story to show that people, who rail at the possibilities of more than two genders, are naive and misinformed.

After research into the area of gender identity, I've come to the conclusion that I don't have the requisite knowledge to do the story justice.

I sometimes think that I am capable of anything. I have a huge ego, fostered out of a sense of self protection. I was abused physically, mentally and emotionally, as a child.

Because of my past, I always seemed to side with the underdogs of this world. I fought for race equality, women's rights, gay rights, gay marriage and many other "hot button" issues of the time.

Today's biggest "hot button" topic appears to be gender identity. I want to weigh in on the issue. What I say below is my personal opinion and I'm certain that you have your own.

Opinions, as they say, are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink. With that qualification out of the way, I shall proceed.

During my research, I learned, from that there are eighty-three (83) known, identifiable gender types. In my ignorance, I thought that there were only a few.

I have never met anyone from Commaful in person. I have had conversations, both through the comments and private messages, with many. I have talked with several of the types of genders.

Hemingway says that a writer shouldn't judge but that he/she should understand. I have taken this position through out my life. I have a pathological need to understand.

So much in the world is confusing. It's easy to choose one side or another and carry that belief through out your life. Understanding requires more. It's not easy, sometimes.

I don't understand the plight that many people face, but it's not for lack of trying to understand. I ask thousands of questions. Sometimes, awkward questions that people don't want to answer.

Despite my lack of understanding, I try not to judge. It would have been easy to judge my gay brother, back in the 1950s, when his behavior would have had him institutionalized.

It would have been easy to judge my best friend in the world, a feminine gay man, who I love as much, if not more, than my brother.

It would have been easy to judge blacks as subhuman, as popular thinking did in the 50s. Or women as too empty headed to be more than a housewife.

It could have made my life easier if I condemned gays, like my brother or best friend, to institutions to correct their "abberrant mental state."

But, I longed to understand why these people, some of whom became friends or lovers, chose to stand up and demand change. I learned that it all boiled down to one simple principle.

A Christian principle.

Treat everyone the way you want to be treated.

Gender identity may be an issue I never understand. It won't be for the lack of trying. Sometimes new ideas can be hard to explain to people who have never been faced with such a concept.

The opponents of gender identity, and all it's myriad possibilities, will use any trick or device to marginalize those who clamor for change.

The last stronghold of any group resisting change is to use children as an excuse for clinging to the status quo.

We see this today, when people say they don't want their child's bathroom invaded by people of the opposite sex. To these people, I say: "Grow up!"

Unisex bathrooms have been available in Europe for longer than most of these people's lives. There is no evidence of "trauma" among the children because of it.

The "trauma" that children experience usually comes from grown ups trying to "teach them right from wrong."

Is gender identity just a new fad as they claim? If they resist the idea long enough, will it simply fade away? The answer that they don't want to face is no.

It's time to stop worrying if someone else identifies to a gender other than yours, or any gender in your feeble imagination. It does not personally affect you. It's their choice, not yours.

Mind your own business!

As for me, I will struggle to understand. I will not judge. With all my flaws and insecurities, WHO AM I to judge?

Treat everyone the way you want to be treated.

With respect.

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