Life lessons that I wish I had known when I was a young man
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bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
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Life lessons that I wish I had known when I was a young man

by bernardtwindwil

Life decisions should be based on logic not emotion.

This is the first of a series. They are a collection of life's lessons that I had wished that I had learned 50 or 60 years ago. When I was young and rambunctious.

Emotions are intuitively not rational.

It is critical that you teach yourself to reconsider any decision that you might make while you are caught in the maelstrom of emotion. Reconsider all those decisions in the light of logic.

Emotions come in two flavors: negative and positive

The negative emotions range from forceful to passive. Positive emotions range from lively through quiet. Emotions often have contrasting emotion in the other category.

Negative emotion spectrum

Anger, contempt, and disgust are forceful. Anxiety and fear are out of control emotions. Despair and boredom are passive Pride and guilt are negative thoughts. Stress & shock are agitation​

Positive emotion spectrum

Delight and joy are lively. Empathy and love are caring emotions. Calmness and relief are quiet positive. Surprise and interest are reactive positive. Hope and courage are positive thought

Don't base decisions on positive or negative emotions.

You never know which decision you make from the momentous to the mundane is going to either positively or negatively affect the rest of your life. Don't risk your future.

Train yourself to calm down and steady up.

Use meditation, laughter, or maybe read poetry to get yourself on an even keel. Relax chill out . Breathe and relax. Give yourself the competitive edge when you decide on your fate.

For all major decisions, be methodical and meticulous

Make a list of all the pros and cons of an issue. Show you friends and relatives. They will help you prioritize and bring out things of which you did not think. This will help clarify things

When the decision is made, don't second guess yourself

Live with the decision. Make it work. Do your best to assure that it was the right decision. Work hard at it. Never look back to see if the wolves are there. They are and you need​ to run.

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bernardtwindwilGold CommaGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@KatieFlemmings Thank you. I really do want to encourage young people to live their own life on the edge. I offer these experiences from my life as ways to make the path a little less painful.

AteefahWriter and poet.
a year agoReply
This is really worth remembering and I think every young person must read this. It's the best advice and so inspiring.

bernardtwindwilGold CommaGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@esotericdesign Thank you, I am honored that you would tweet that. I hope it helps someone to back off and think before they dive into something.

bernardtwindwilGold CommaGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@therinamartins You are such a sweetheart. I can tell you think with that thing that rests between your ears, I don't know what other people use theirs for. You only need to block out the emotions long enough to make the decision and a plan. Then carry on and reach for the stars.

esotericdesignDesigner. Advocate. Writer.
a year agoReply
Well done my friend! Im tweeting it

therinamartinsSilver CommaWriter and Friend
a year agoReply
This is so true. I do that all the time, as in calming down, not basing myself on emotions, and living with the decisions I make. Sometimes it's hard to live with the decision, but at the end it's worth it. Emotions tend to get in the way of many important decisions we have to make. Learning how to block them out for a limited time while you're making the critical decision is extremely important. But blocking them out completely is a crime. They help you in some cases, but you have to know the start line and the finish line. Moderation is the key. And wisdom.

bernardtwindwilGold CommaGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@pluto I do not think it is possible to watch too many Disney movies. It like saying too much fun.

plutoCommabassadorPlanets man
a year agoReply
@bernardtwindwil i've probably been watching too many disney movies ;)

bernardtwindwilGold CommaGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@pluto You could have gone all month without mentioning that carnival huckster.

plutoCommabassadorPlanets man
a year agoReply
might love sometimes trump logic?