Life decisions should be based on logic not emotion.
This is the first of a series. They are a collection of life's lessons that I had wished that I had learned 50 or 60 years ago. When I was young and rambunctious.
Emotions are intuitively not rational.
It is critical that you teach yourself to reconsider any decision that you might make while you are caught in the maelstrom of emotion. Reconsider all those decisions in the light of logic.
Emotions come in two flavors: negative and positive
The negative emotions range from forceful to passive. Positive emotions range from lively through quiet. Emotions often have contrasting emotion in the other category.
Negative emotion spectrum
Anger, contempt, and disgust are forceful. Anxiety and fear are out of control emotions. Despair and boredom are passive Pride and guilt are negative thoughts. Stress & shock are agitation
Positive emotion spectrum
Delight and joy are lively. Empathy and love are caring emotions. Calmness and relief are quiet positive. Surprise and interest are reactive positive. Hope and courage are positive thought
Don't base decisions on positive or negative emotions.
You never know which decision you make from the momentous to the mundane is going to either positively or negatively affect the rest of your life. Don't risk your future.
Train yourself to calm down and steady up.
Use meditation, laughter, or maybe read poetry to get yourself on an even keel. Relax chill out . Breathe and relax. Give yourself the competitive edge when you decide on your fate.
For all major decisions, be methodical and meticulous
Make a list of all the pros and cons of an issue. Show you friends and relatives. They will help you prioritize and bring out things of which you did not think. This will help clarify things
When the decision is made, don't second guess yourself
Live with the decision. Make it work. Do your best to assure that it was the right decision. Work hard at it. Never look back to see if the wolves are there. They are and you need to run.