Love is easy
Love is easy stories

bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller,
Autoplay OFF  •  a year ago
I became concerned when poet after poet wrote about these tragic love affairs. I saw some common threads. I feel compelled to speak out. I realize that there is a two-generation gap. Nevertheless, I believe that I may have some points worth listening to.

Love is easy

by bernardtwindwil

I read of cataclysmic collapse of all life on these pages

I also read of life-long Canadian Geese bonding. I read of 14-20 yr olds whose lives are permanently mutilated by the whimsical capricousness of another teenager.

Every single person on Earth will lose a puppy love.

No greater love hath anyone than a 14 yr old for their first arousal. The target of affection needs not be aware of their effect. Just know any rejection is the end of life as known to the kid.

Love ebbs and flows Time only flows

I have read about the galactic shattering calamity of lost infatuation. The rending of flesh. The self immolation.

First kiss to last breath

I don't remember nor the 32,567,982 that followed. I remember one only. I remember the smell of my children's hair when they were babies.

Only one true love

Do you actually believe this emotional BS. Earth has 7.4 billion people. The math is that there are 7,400,000 one in a millions. That is everyone in Hanoi, Bogota, Hong Kong, Baghdad.

Serial monogamy in an open society

It may have been HIV, technological isolation, or who knows? We have become a one on one romantic relationship society. Not in my youth.

"Playing the field" or Polyamorous?

That is one fancy word. I dated our head cheerleader who was dating another school's QB. He was dating 2 others. I regularly dated 4-5 girls who dated other guys. A very few "went steady".

I could fall in love as described on commaful 3 times a day

Have you had more than one dog in your life? I think you young millenials are losing perspective and proportion in your emotional life.

"If we do, will you respect me in the morning?"

Either you want to or don't want to. Stop playing games with sex. "Sure, baby. I'll respect you every bit as much as I do right now."

It's only love if he or she is there when you wake up

If you wake up and eat breakfast together, the sex was meaningful. If not, it was casual and a good time. Do not encumber friendship with drama.

Having sex requires responsibility

You may be of a religion that requires sex after marriage. Irresponsible sex can lead to disease and pregnancy. Be responsinle,

Know who you are. Don't change.

Unless you are dating a sociopath, they won't want you to change. At any weird request, run to the nearest exit.

Your lover is not there to affirm your life's foundations.

Dating and romantic relationships should be fun. A ride on a Ferris wheel. A walk in the park. Watching two morons play video games.

Lighten up, group.

Life is long. It is too long to continually go through these serial disasters in your so called love life.

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I agree with this poem! I've been thinking that people need to be venerable to be able to love but it's scary to do that. How can we be venerable and also unafraid? That's the tricky part.

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@bernardtwindwil .... Hey.. Thanks for seeing the points I was trying to make.., But I still do believe in true and real love.. I have experienced this once in my life.. And I wouldn't trade that most amazing and awesome experience for nothing.. I can still close my eyes.. And relive every moment spent with him.. Those who are fortunate to experience this kind love... Will always remember the intensity of the impact it has.. It makes life so worth living..

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@nitasmith I agree with everything you said. When I was an adolescent in the 1960 time frame, I sought love because I really wanted physical contact. We called it heavy petting in those days. It was a convenience to call puppy love "like". I "liked" a girl named Laura be cause we were exploring physical affection with one another. Actual coitus came quite a few years later. I "liked" that young lady too. So I understand exactly what you say that definition counts and the methods of emotional and physical involvement within that definition. As you say, willingness to lie to yourself because you have an insatiable desire is often confused with love.

a year agoReply
@bernardtwindwil..... All good points and it's taken..., But.. Actually.., my opinion still stands... When it comes to love.. It's some times hard to figure out what affection and attractions is love.. Most times we confuse. Lust... Physical attraction.. Sex.. For love.. Sometimes our needs.. For acceptance.. And our needs to feel affection is also confused for love... Some become obsessed and addicted to another for what they offer.. So love sometimes is not easily recognizable to some.. All depends on how they define love...

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a year agoReply
@nitasmith You missed the entire point of what I was saying. You don't look for that...ONE...person that clicks with you. You check out the many. If it is painful, it is not love. When people are negative, depressed, don't take care of their looks, don't respect themselves, will do anything for a little affection and have difficult relationships, they call it bad luck. You make your own luck. If you don't know how to love another person, then you probably don't know how to love yourself. If you don't like and or love you, how can you expect anyone else to like or love you? Lets discuss this further. I am not lucky. Every benefit I have had in life, I have pursued with vigor and intelligence.

a year agoReply
@erofaer Bernard.... Love.. Is easy when you are lucky to find that one person that click with you.. Other than that.. It's hard.. And painful.. Not all of are so lucky in love.. And not all of us know exactly how to really love.. So much misconceptions.. Just saying!!!

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a year agoReply
@erofaer You have wisdom beyond your years and you give your schoolmates have confidence in your intelligence and stability.

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a year agoReply
This is great advice for everyone. I'll have to remember this when one of my friends are in need of romantic advice. Though I have no idea why they come to me considering my lack of experience.... This poem was amazing really something worth reading.

bernardtwindwilGold CommaGranddad & story teller,
a year agoReply
@dannibear1461 I think the increasing compartmentalization of our society is a huge factor in mating rituals. When I was a little guy. You had to drive at least a half an hour to go to a theatre or drive-in movie for a date to see a movie. Naturally, everyone else within four counties showed and it was a social occasion. Once TV became more universal, there was only one per family and all the friends and neighbors came over and watched. Then everyone had a personal TV. Then VCR you could socialize on demand. We are so isolated now people get together online while sitting in their stained underwear. Now you do mating dances online or you don't find a mate. Times change social mores change and idealization of the opposite sex changes.

dannibear1461Bronze CommaMum, Novice at poetry
a year agoReply
I found your take very interesting , times changes, dating changes, values and morals seem to change to with most , very valid issues raised here I love how you can write about it so well , in admiration