Fear and loving
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bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
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I understand fear. But I don't do it well.

Fear and loving

by bernardtwindwil

Fear?

An anxious feeling caused by our anticipation of some imagined event or experience. The fear response is a standardized biological reaction.

5 basic fears

Fear, like all other emotions, is basically information. It offers us knowledge and understanding—if we choose to accept it—of our psychobiological status. And there are only five basic fears.

Extinction

The idea of no longer being, arouses a primary existential anxiety in all normal humans. This is a more fundamental way to express it than just calling it "fear of death.

Mutilation

This isthe fear of losing any part of our precious bodily structure; the thought of having our body's boundaries invaded, or of losing the integrity of any organ, body part, or natural function.

Loss of autonomy

The expectation of being immobilized, paralyzed, restricted, enveloped, overwhelmed, entrapped, imprisoned, smothered, or otherwise controlled by circumstances beyond our control.

Separation

The fear of abandonment, rejection, and loss of connectedness; of becoming a non-person—not wanted, respected, or valued by anyone else. The "silent treatment," can be devastating.

Ego-death

The fear of humiliation, shame, or any other mechanism of profound self-disapproval that threatens the loss of integrity of the Self; the fear of the shattering or disintegration of one's self.

Love and fear cannot exist on the same platform

This is for those who are in toxic relationships. The emotion of love and fear compete for the same binding sites in our brain.

I love you but I am afraid of you...

Fear is the rational expectation of insult or assault. I'm afraid you will leave. I am afraid you will hit me. Love cannot exist in an atmosphere of fear

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bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
9 months agoReply
@michaelschulze As far apart as our homelands were we still were subjected to the culture of "The Englishman" . We had to fit that mold.

9 months agoReply
@bernardtwindwil we have more in common than just being human age may have something to do with it we grow up in a different world

bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
9 months agoReply
@bryanthomas Thank you.

bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
9 months agoReply
@michaelschulze I know how what you mean. Death holds no fear for me. The thought of it occurring "poof lights out" is very comforting. In Vietnam, I used to carry a small hand grenade on my left breast strap so I could reach it with either hand in case capture was imminent. Torture and pain is so undignified. I love hearing from you. i have a kindred spirit on the otherside of the globe.

bryanthomasIn my spare time I juggle fog.
9 months agoReply
Excellent, bernard.

9 months agoReply
I have as much fear as any man except a fear of death now I don't want to die in pain but the taught of no longer existing brings me great comfort

bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
9 months agoReply
@ameagami @arustamyananahi @LostInMyDreams Thank you. If nothing else, I had hoped to establish a starting definition of terms for some dialogue. I have had hyperactivity disorder my entire life. Fear is a foreign concept to me personally. I am immersed in other people's fear.and some of that fear is inappropriate and crippling. So, if we may establish a common ground, maybe these young people can express their fears and perhaps set free.

LostInMyDreamsDelving deeper into the unknown
9 months agoReply
Great way of enlightening us. Lots of people don't really know the depths of fear. Unfortunately, I do since I deal with anxiety. These fears are the topics of my therapy sessions. I find the only way to become free of this anxiety disorder I have to understand fear. Great post!

9 months agoReply
Powerful work.

9 months agoReply
Wow , I really needed to read that , thank you so much