bernardtwindwilGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
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Cognitive distortion #1 Filtering

When your mind tricks you into thinking that something is impossible. You announce that you did not want to succeed anyway because the goal was tainted and not worthy of your efforts.

Cognitive distortion #2 Polarized thinking

“I always fail when I try to do something new; I therefore, fail at everything I try.” This is black and white thinking. The world is not about absolutes.

Cognitive distortion #3 Overgeneralization

We come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. We start expecting a never-ending​ pattern of defeat.

Cognitive distortion # 4 Jumping to Conclusions.

Without individuals saying so, we know what they are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, we are able to determine how people are feeling toward us.

Cognitive distortion #5 Catastrophizing

The gloom and doom imperative. We expect disaster to strike, no matter what. This is also referred to as “magnifying or minimizing.”

Cognitive distortion #6 Personalization.

Personalization is a distortion where a person believes that everything others do or say is some kind of direct, personal reaction to the person. We constantly compare ourselves to others.

Cognitive distortion # 7 Control Fallacies

If we feel externally controlled, we see ourselves as helpless a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has us assuming responsibility for the pain and happiness of everyone around us.

Cognitive distortion # 8 Fallacy of Fairness

People who go through life applying a measuring ruler against every situation judging its “fairness” will often feel badly and negative because of it.

Cognitive distortion #9 Blaming.

We hold other people responsible for our pain, or take the other track and blame ourselves for every problem. Only we have control over our own emotions and emotional reactions.

Cognitive distortion # 10 Shoulds

Coulda-shoulda-woulda. When a person directs should statements toward others, they often feel anger, frustration and resentment.

Cognitive distortion # 11 Emotional Reasoning.

We believe that what we feel must be true automatically. If we feel stupid and boring, then we must be stupid and boring. You assume that your unhealthy emotions reflect he way things really are

Cognitive distortion # 12 Fallacy of Change

We expect that other people will change to suit us if we just pressure or cajole them enough. We need to change people because our hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.

Cognitive distortion # 13 Global Labeling.

We generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment. These are extreme forms of generalizing, and are also referred to as “labeling” and “mislabeling.”

Cognitive distortion # 14 Always Being Right

We are continually on trial to prove that our opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and we will go to any length to demonstrate our rightness.

Cognitive distortion # 15 Heaven’s Reward Fallacy

15 Common Cognitive Distortions By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. ~ 5 min read 15 Common Cognitive DistortionsWhat’s a cognitive distortion and why do so many people have them? Cognitive distortions ar

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bernardtwindwilGifted WriterGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
10 months agoReply
@dissonance I keep these as flip card on my phone. I go way back with them to when I returned from Vietnam War batshit crazy with PTSD. They have been a profound gift. Keep on writing. I stopped for forty years. It was a huge mistake.

dissonanceGifted WriterAnd everything in you is a dream
10 months agoReply
Thank you so much for showing me this, I never thought about it to this detailed extent. Each "step" I read hit a certain realization and it made me understand why I wrote a poem like that. I feel like I need to read this over and over again, it's just something I can't get out of my head now.

bernardtwindwilGifted WriterGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@johnchang @nitasmith @riverfr0zen Thank youm al all These would not been so significant if I had not been guilty of every one.

a year agoReply
Wow!! We do all go through these steps of distortion... One time or another...

riverfr0zenwriter, programmer, photographer?
a year agoReply
Worth putting against images, and they worked pretty well like that, I thought.

johnchangjust a man discovering his superpowers
a year agoReply
A friend of mine is developing an app to remind us how we need to be kind to ourselves - often, that's where the problem starts. https://www.indiegogo.com...

bernardtwindwilGifted WriterGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@fizzanaseem @johnchang I carry these on my phone. Whenever I feel myself getting upset, I take a look to make sure I am not being caught up in a distortion.

a year agoReply
Among all of these distortions I usually jump to the conclusions and most of the time overgeneralize thing :D But I know that and that's what helps me :) Great lesson..I'm a psychology student by the way

johnchangjust a man discovering his superpowers
a year agoReply
Guilty as charged - funny how even being conscious of these as erroneous doesn't make us immune. This also reminds me that I need to revisit the Four Agreements!

bernardtwindwilGifted WriterGranddad & story teller, tomthepo8.com
a year agoReply
@penny I think cognitive therapy is the most effective we have today.