Hey, here’s a fucking concept: Let trans men fucking talk. Stop telling us that we don’t have it as bad and excluding us from queer spaces/letting us have any input for that reason.
I fucking guarantee you that the only ones of us who have male privilege like you claim are the ones who pass really well and/or live in stealth.
The moment they find out we are trans guys they will immediately see us as women. I’m still seen as a woman, not a man.
Stop saying we are misogynists when we talk about this shit or any other problems we face.
It’s getting annoying because, being raised as a girl, I could talk about my problems and have someone listen and now, as a trans guy, people still aren’t listening.
At best I get ignored and at worst I get angry comments.
We are real men, yes. But people don’t see us that way. We also still are trans. We still experience transphobia and other shit because of that.
People still creepily obsess over the fact some of us have tits and vaginas.
We can’t even talk about anything involving reproductive rights because, apparently, we signed away that when we “wanted to become men.”
People assume we are fucking butch lesbians or some shit. TERFs and radfems make us hate ourselves and prey on that to “detransition” us and recruit us as one of them.
They still say nasty shit about us too, alongside seeing us as women or gender traitors still, and don’t you DARE forget that.
We make posts talking about how all the positivity for women and hatred for men makes us feel like shit and, for some people like me, makes it hard for us to accept that we’re trans guys.
At best we are met with “where did I say I was talking about trans boys?” (By saying men, you fucking egg.
) and at worst it’s “why do you hate women so much?” (And you know DAMN well that’s not what we meant.)
I masqueraded as nonbinary for almost a year because of that shit. I was miserable. I didn’t tell anyone really about the dysphoria because I didn’t want them to hate me.
I still hate myself for transitioning because of some of the shit I hear on here and the shit my family says to me.
You act like we have it so fucking good when we go through a lot of the same shit.
There’s posts by some trans women and nonbinary people basically throwing us under the goddamn bus and saying how awful and worthless we are and no one bats an eyelash.
And I think we shouldn’t throw any of us under the bus but,
you know for a fact that if a trans guy made posts like that he would be witch hunted and if you don’t believe me then think about truscum.
(No offence but I don’t support how they go about things but I don’t wanna get in to that discourse.)
You act like we have nothing bad happen to us irl when I get death stares from people in my town,
misgendered and laughed at when I tell them to use he/him and I can’t say shit cause I would have gotten fired if I tried to defend myself,
and I was even kicked out of a restaurant after a woman said she “chooses who she serves.
” (She kept misgendering me and I corrected her and she did it again and when I corrected her again she said she “couldn’t tell!!!”)
You act like our friends and family don’t misgender us or say hurtful shit to us or kick us out ever. (“I’ll always see you as my daughter.” “You’ll always be (deadname) to me.
” “But you’re not, like, a REAL guy.” “It’s pretty obvious you’re transgender, Alex.” in response to being outed by my friends mother.)
People always go on about trans men contributing nothing to the trans community and that’s because you won’t let us talk.
I’m so tired of people talking about trans people and only meaning trans women.
People don’t even know we exist for the most part! Sure, we are starting to be more popular I guess but I can’t turn on the TV and see shit about trans men actors.
Even bottom surgery is farther ahead for trans women than trans men!
If you won’t let me talk then I will damn sure start screaming so I am heard because, to be honest, it’s getting ridiculous. And I’m tired of it.
Sure, we have things that are better for us than others but so does EVERYONE!!! And everyone has aspects that are WORSE!