I'm part of a group that has many members. I'm a straight, white, middle-class, Catholic guy who is married and has kids. I'm pretty fiscally conservative and pretty socially liberal.
I've never *intentionally* said or done anything to anyone that would be considered racist or sexist or homophobic but there have definitely been a few times in my life where something I
said or did landed poorly and the impact was considered racist or sexist of homophobic. (Obviously in those rare circumstances, I always apologize.)
But because I've never had the *intent* of a racist or sexist or homophobe, I often find myself put off by being reminded of my privilege.
*White* privilege, *straight* privilege, *male* privilege, now even [*hair* privilege](https://heatst.
From just a general, humanistic perspective, telling someone they have a societal advantage for something that they didn't earn only serves to put people on the defensive.
I know there are things that come easier to me because of my race,
gender and sexual orientation (and full head of hair) but when those things are called out in the context of telling me what my responsibility is to greater humanity instead of
being *asked* to do what I can to help, it just doesn't make me want to get involved.
Look at something like GoFundMe. Have you ever seen a page there telling people that they have a responsibility to give $1 to help those less fortunate? No.
They put out the story and they ask for help. If I was intentionally doing things to keep people down, I could see being told about my responsibility to stop.
But since I'm coming from the perspective of the person who *doesn't* do things to intentionally keep people down,
it's off-putting to be told what I *should* be doing or what I *need* to be doing.
If, instead, I was told about black *disadvantages* or gay *disadvantages* or female *disadvantages,
* I would be significantly more likely to really take in what was being told to me and much more likely to take up advocacy with those already fighting.
I know I absolutely have these privileges and I'm not trying to argue that I don't.
I'm saying that if the most important thing is calling out the establishment and finding reasons to be angry, then by all means let's keep doing what we're doing.
But if the goal is to actually create millions more allies in these spaces and actually begin to change public sentiment, flipping the language would go a long way.
Change My View.
**EDIT** I have to go to bed now. I responded to dozens of comments and I'm really enjoying the conversation.
There are still more than 100 responses that I need to dive into and I will do that tomorrow (Friday). Thank you all for some seriously thought-provoking comments.
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