Most posts to CMV are a bid to be heard, not a request to "change my view"
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I think we ache to be heard, and CMV is a devil's bargain: in exchange for fulfilling the need to be heard, we offer our mind up to be operated on by language. Changing one's view is actually a somewhat painful process--learning new information is hard, feeling empathy for someone else is exhausting, admitting to a wrong or incomplete view is discouraging,
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Most posts to CMV are a bid to be heard, not a request to "change my view"

by canadaduane

I think we ache to be heard, and CMV is a devil's bargain: in exchange for fulfilling the need to be heard, we offer our mind up to be operated on by language.

Changing one's view is actually a somewhat painful process--learning new information is hard, feeling empathy for someone else is exhausting, admitting to a wrong or incomplete view is discouraging,

and opening one's ideas to vulnerable cross examination is frightening.

What most of us actually want (and need) is to be heard in the complete sense--to know that someone else understands the context and specifics of our suffering (whether great or small).

We yearn to "feel felt" by someone. Having one's mind changed in the process is simply the associated cost of venturing out to have this need met.

**Note:** I created /r/ihearyou as an experiment along these lines.

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